This past week, I helped Heather Forbes, LCSW put on a webinar titled “I’m the One Who Needs the Time-Out!” so I was really busy with that and the online classes we did and didn’t have time for an in depth blog post here.

I wanted to say that we had over 1,100 parents sign up for this online class in just a week of prep for it.

Almost half showed up live and they were very interested in what she had to say.

The response was amazing, and it just shows what a need there is for the information that Heather is getting out there. I am really glad to be a part of her team, because I know that I am helping to make a huge difference in people’s lives and in the generations to come.

I am very excited to be going to her Mom’s Conference in Denver as a facilitator next month. Going to this event changed my life and I was able to heal deep abandonment issues I’d stuffed and suffered from since I was a child. Join me if you need a change in your life, in your family – it starts with your own healing. Read more about my healing experience.

Are you with me?

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Do you ever find yourself overreacting to your child’s behavior? Do you sometimes find yourself at your brink, not understanding how you could have moved from a place of pure love and joy to absolute frustration and intolerance?

Parenting is the hardest job–ever! Our children can move us to a whole new level within ourselves, especially children with traumatic histories. They have a way of challenging us like no one else on this planet could ever do.

Listen in on this webinar with Heather T. Forbes, LCSW to discover why these dynamics are happening within you. You aren’t going crazy! There is a reason for these intense feelings and she will bring to you a new understanding to settle your heart and mind. As an adoptive mother herself, she knows first hand how it feels to be the one who needs a time-out more than your child! Heather will also share some of her own personal story of healing that will inspire you and help you embrace each moment with your child.

Space is limited – Choose which date and time works best for you:

Reserve your Webinar seat for September 16th, 2009 at 9:30pm MDT now:
https://www2.gotomeeting.com/register/723306186

Reserve your Webinar seat for September 21st, 2009 at 7:30pm MDT now:
https://www2.gotomeeting.com/register/265332339

(These are exactly the same, delivered on different days/times for your convenience.) After registering for the day/time of your choice, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the Webinar.

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Online Parenting Class Testimonial

“My husband Reed and I are parents of Courtney, age 10, adopted from Belarus at age 12 months.  I’ve been familiar with the Beyond Consequences Institute parenting paradigm for about a year, but it didn’t really click until I attended a BCI Live presentation last spring.  There’s nothing like seeing this method in action and actually being able to role play scenarios that might happen with your child.

The on-line parenting classes provide this same opportunity — on a weekly basis!  I was very anxious and dysregulated about the new school year, so I decided to enroll in the on-line class right before school started.

That decision is one of the best I’ve ever made.

For the first time, I went to the school armed with techniques for use by both the classroom teacher and special school district teachers.

I finally felt like the expert on my own child! 

These extremely cost-effective parenting classes are worth every penny and moment of your time.”

Brenda Murphy-Niederkorn

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When “in the moment” your child is in his right brain, unable to access his cognitive and rational thinking. Image by cloois via Flickr

“When ‘in the moment’ with your child, your child is in his right brain. He is emotional and he is unable to access his cognitive and rational thinking (i.e., his left brain.) Asking him to tell you ‘why’ he is acting in this way is non-productive. Asking him to make a ‘choice’ is impossible. And asking him to ’stop’ is against nature.

Allow yourself to join your child in his dysregulated emotional place. Let the rational thought and the life lesson follow later when he is calm and more receptive. Join him in love and allow him the space to be all he knows how to be for that very moment. ” ~ Heather Forbes, LCSW

I wanted to share this email that I got from one of our online parenting class participants, who originally began studying Heather’s work to help kids in orphanages and found it was “ideal and needed” for her own family’s healing… [Read more →]

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“When you seek to change your child, you must look within yourself first to see what it is in you that needs to be changed.

Healing through relationships is a reciprocal process and you, as the parent, need to take the lead in spearheading the movement.” Heather Forbes, LCSW

I got an email this week from one of our students that I wanted to share as well as my response…

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By June Ebell

Heather and Andrea,

At the beginning I was skeptical about the Beyond Consequences method.

I believe there is no “magic wand” that you can wave, and everything is roses (with no thorns).
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Online Parenting Class Testimonial from Margie & Rick Magar

- Tell us a little about yourself

We are Christian parents of a 15-year-old birth-daughter who we have
home schooled for 9 years. We felt God’s call in our hearts this past
November (2008) to adopt a child from the US Foster Care system. We are
currently waiting to hear back on a potential match. [Read more →]

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Online Parenting Class Testimonial from Karen Adams, Beyond Consequences Instructor

- Tell us a little about yourself

I am a bio mom of adult kids, a former special needs and therapeutic foster parent, and a new adoptive mom. I am choosing to adopt children from US foster care that are already “labeled” with diagnoses including RAD, PTSD, ADHD, FAS, Mental Retardation, Adjustment Disorder of Childhood. [Read more →]

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Can you see this angry child as a scared child? Image by foamcow via Flickr.

Today in our online parenting class that started last month we completed Session 7 in the course which deals with Chapter 9 in Beyond Consequences, Logic & Control Volume 1 on Aggression. Our goals for today’s session were:

1. To help participants identify anger as fear. An aggressive child is a scared child.
2. To help parents understand that aggression is a survival behavior, triggered when feeling threatened.
3. Equip parents to identify their own fear reactions when their child is aggressive.
4. Teach techniques that can be used to create safety and decrease the creation of more fear and stress.
5. Help them realize that aggression is not a personal attack against them. Help them shift their belief that their child is rejecting them.
6. Help them understand that the core drive of aggressive behavior is not control, it is protection. [Read more →]

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I make a large batch of this smoothie almost every morning. The ingredients change according to what is seasonal and locally available.

It literally changed my body in a matter of months. I have had one almost every single day since September of 2008. I lost 35 pounds of stubborn “baby” weight, gained tons of energy, eliminated PMS…. Friends and family I’ve turned onto Green Smoothies have also lost weight, reduced high blood pressure and were able to reduce some medications. Check with your doctor if you are taking medications as fruits and dark leafy greens are powerful.
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