Online Parenting Classes

“The Beyond Consequences model is refreshing and hope-filled in its focus on healing the child from within through relationship and unconditional love rather than on just correcting outward behaviors with the traditional, fear-based parenting model.” Margie Magar

“Powerful workshop. Left with new insights into myself, and greater confidence in becoming the kind of woman, mother, and helper that I want to be, as well as with some great tools and a support network I truly believe I can count on for help and encouragement on my journey.” Cindy P.

“The online class helped me to move beyond simple knowledge, to changing my paradigm. I feel empowered with the tools and resources to parent out of love, instead of fear. I also feel confident when meeting with teachers and school personnel, knowing what will help my son and what will only bring more behavior challenges. I have found that this paradigm change is applicable not only in parenting, but also in every other area of life – living and responding out of a state of love, instead of a state of fear is for every moment in my life, and applies to every situation. I can’t thank Heather and Andrea enough for the difference they have made in my life!!!” June Ebell

“I attended the Mom’s Conference in May, after reading Heather’s books. I learned much about my parenting style at the conference. The online training, over the time of several weeks, made the material clearer. The weekly classes reinforced the parenting information I was learning. I had several “ah ha” moments when I understood what must have happened to our grandsons. Responding to the child in the moment without judgment is so important and healthy, instead of reacting to the child in fear, anger, judgment. Love is so important!” Judy Gates

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My book review that I just posted on Amazon.com:

“When I first met Heather T Forbes, I interviewed her on my weekly parenting
podcast. I was so impressed that I then read her books and it was like
a light went on inside of me. Finally after 32 years of being alive
someone could explain to me why I was the way that I was.

I had many of these behaviors growing up (lying, stealing,
hoarding, gorging, aggression, defiance) in private. To the outside
world I was beautiful, highly accomplished and friendly. However, my
first marriage crumbled, and only because of my second husband’s
unconditional love and understanding was I able to finally stop
stealing. But when I became a parent I was horrified at how reactive I
was to my daughter (our IVF biological child, no trauma).

Reading this book lead to so much self understanding and healing
for me – it was a GODSEND. Heather puts on a Mom’s Conference several
times a year that I went to in May of 09 and my life did a 180 from
then on. I was able to heal and forgive deep abandonment issues from my
childhood. No longer am I reactive the way that I was before I shifted
to the Beyond Consequences parenting paradigm.

Several years ago I was diagnosed with Bipolar and put on meds. I
do not feel that it was accurate, and I am no longer on medication to
deal with my moods.

Granted I have also changed my diet so that I eat more raw dark
leafy greens and fruits daily, something I didn’t before and that has
impacted my outlook on life tremendously. But as Heather says in her
online parenting classes based on this book, all the good food in the
world can’t help you if you don’t truly love yourself, deep down
inside, unconditionally.

Heather’s work will help you understand what that truly means and how to give it to your children.

I have used this understanding and these methods with my almost 3
yr old for the past 5 months with huge success. I think this book
should be retitled to apply to all human beings! Thank God I have the
tools to give my precious child the most loving and respectful
upbringing while respecting and loving myself as well.

I can’t recommend this book enough.

THANK YOU HEATHER!”

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This past week, I helped Heather Forbes, LCSW put on a webinar titled “I’m the One Who Needs the Time-Out!” so I was really busy with that and the online classes we did and didn’t have time for an in depth blog post here.

I wanted to say that we had over 1,100 parents sign up for this online class in just a week of prep for it.

Almost half showed up live and they were very interested in what she had to say.

The response was amazing, and it just shows what a need there is for the information that Heather is getting out there. I am really glad to be a part of her team, because I know that I am helping to make a huge difference in people’s lives and in the generations to come.

I am very excited to be going to her Mom’s Conference in Denver as a facilitator next month. Going to this event changed my life and I was able to heal deep abandonment issues I’d stuffed and suffered from since I was a child. Join me if you need a change in your life, in your family – it starts with your own healing. Read more about my healing experience.

Are you with me?

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Online Parenting Class Testimonial

“My husband Reed and I are parents of Courtney, age 10, adopted from Belarus at age 12 months.  I’ve been familiar with the Beyond Consequences Institute parenting paradigm for about a year, but it didn’t really click until I attended a BCI Live presentation last spring.  There’s nothing like seeing this method in action and actually being able to role play scenarios that might happen with your child.

The on-line parenting classes provide this same opportunity — on a weekly basis!  I was very anxious and dysregulated about the new school year, so I decided to enroll in the on-line class right before school started.

That decision is one of the best I’ve ever made.

For the first time, I went to the school armed with techniques for use by both the classroom teacher and special school district teachers.

I finally felt like the expert on my own child! 

These extremely cost-effective parenting classes are worth every penny and moment of your time.”

Brenda Murphy-Niederkorn

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When “in the moment” your child is in his right brain, unable to access his cognitive and rational thinking. Image by cloois via Flickr

“When ‘in the moment’ with your child, your child is in his right brain. He is emotional and he is unable to access his cognitive and rational thinking (i.e., his left brain.) Asking him to tell you ‘why’ he is acting in this way is non-productive. Asking him to make a ‘choice’ is impossible. And asking him to ’stop’ is against nature.

Allow yourself to join your child in his dysregulated emotional place. Let the rational thought and the life lesson follow later when he is calm and more receptive. Join him in love and allow him the space to be all he knows how to be for that very moment. ” ~ Heather Forbes, LCSW

I wanted to share this email that I got from one of our online parenting class participants, who originally began studying Heather’s work to help kids in orphanages and found it was “ideal and needed” for her own family’s healing… [Read more →]

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“When you seek to change your child, you must look within yourself first to see what it is in you that needs to be changed.

Healing through relationships is a reciprocal process and you, as the parent, need to take the lead in spearheading the movement.” Heather Forbes, LCSW

I got an email this week from one of our students that I wanted to share as well as my response…

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By June Ebell

Heather and Andrea,

At the beginning I was skeptical about the Beyond Consequences method.

I believe there is no “magic wand” that you can wave, and everything is roses (with no thorns).
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Online Parenting Class Testimonial from Margie & Rick Magar

- Tell us a little about yourself

We are Christian parents of a 15-year-old birth-daughter who we have
home schooled for 9 years. We felt God’s call in our hearts this past
November (2008) to adopt a child from the US Foster Care system. We are
currently waiting to hear back on a potential match. [Read more →]

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Online Parenting Class Testimonial from Karen Adams, Beyond Consequences Instructor

- Tell us a little about yourself

I am a bio mom of adult kids, a former special needs and therapeutic foster parent, and a new adoptive mom. I am choosing to adopt children from US foster care that are already “labeled” with diagnoses including RAD, PTSD, ADHD, FAS, Mental Retardation, Adjustment Disorder of Childhood. [Read more →]

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Can you see this angry child as a scared child? Image by foamcow via Flickr.

Today in our online parenting class that started last month we completed Session 7 in the course which deals with Chapter 9 in Beyond Consequences, Logic & Control Volume 1 on Aggression. Our goals for today’s session were:

1. To help participants identify anger as fear. An aggressive child is a scared child.
2. To help parents understand that aggression is a survival behavior, triggered when feeling threatened.
3. Equip parents to identify their own fear reactions when their child is aggressive.
4. Teach techniques that can be used to create safety and decrease the creation of more fear and stress.
5. Help them realize that aggression is not a personal attack against them. Help them shift their belief that their child is rejecting them.
6. Help them understand that the core drive of aggressive behavior is not control, it is protection. [Read more →]

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