“Families don’t need martyrs, they need mothers. You have to take care of yourself first, so you have something to give. You can’t give what you don’t have.” Dr. Phil

This quote was posted by a friend of mine who is taking the Dare To Love Yourself Challenge with me.

Here’s a few videos I recorded, will try to Vlog every day of the Challenge!! =)

I am going to do this as much as I can – morning, noon and night or anytime I need regulation! I put them on an MP3 player and am going to carry it around with me, listening before I go to bed and right when I wake up if I can.

I would at least listen to and recite the affirmations, whichever you feel applies to you. At minimum, do the Affirmational phrases (CD2 last track) if you have time for nothing else. Practice the meditations – once you really know the longer meditation (CD1 track 5) then use track 6 whenever you need to or when you have a tough day.

Most of all, I think approaching this with love for yourself, sharing your intentions with your family and asking for their support will help you stick to it! Today I had a very dysregulated moment and my family helped me through it – my husband and daughter came and hugged me and supported me as I cried myself through the Affirmation of Forgiveness after a blowup and it was so cute, my daughter stuck around as I did the rest of the CD and was agreeing with me. “Yes, you are” “You are doing it now, Mommy.” My heart! It was too precious.

Here is my vlog post for Day 1! I listened to the affirmational phrases (last track, CD2) in the morning 3x until I really felt I could say them “with conviction”. I am one of those that needs a crowbar getting out of bed!

During the walk I did the Forgiveness Affirmations. As I go to bed I’ll do meditation 2 and listen to the music, I really love “This too shall pass”; have it stuck in my head!

Re: last night, getting my daughter off the trike (had to buy one in the box) out of WalMart at 7:30pm – she was SCREAMING her head off, I stayed calm and loving, even though she dug her nails repeatedly into my cheeks, squeezing (thank God I’d cut her nails that day or I’d be bleeding). I told her passionately, “YOU WANT YOUR BIKE! DADDY IS BUYING IT FOR YOU!” and kept offering her love and understanding in my heart. She stopped screaming and told me, “I VERY ANGRY!” and I said “Yes, I can see YOU ARE VERY ANGRY! I understand, YOU WANT YOUR BIKE! It’s OK to be upset.” Surprisingly she didn’t fight me putting her in the car seat and she was asleep before we pulled out of the parking lot.

I knew she was going to have a heard time with this, but we had no choice but to take her after dinner because we sold the car today and wouldn’t have had time in the morning to get her the bike (we returned the Radio Flyer trike she’d had b/c it was squealing terribly after only a few days of use).

So, I am really, really proud of myself for that.I did bring the situation up w/ my daughter today and asked her to remember last night and told her it was not OK to hurt me. I apologized for having to take her off the bike and carry her out of the store, asked for her forgiveness. She apologized (with prompting) and asked for my forgiveness (without prompting). We had a great big wonderful hug and went out for our walk.

I had a rough day though, was a bit short with my poor husband, for no reason. I am going to focus on getting more sleep tonight (I didn’t sleep until 1:30am last night). Sleep is so important!

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